We all feel it at some point in our lives – the fear of starting over. It can be paralyzing, preventing us from taking risks and achieving our goals. But don’t let this fear hold you back! There is no shame in starting over, as long as you do it with purpose and intention.
In this blog post, we will discuss how to overcome the fear of starting over and move forward with your life!
Why do we fear change?
There are many reasons why we fear change, but often it comes down to a fear of the unknown. We may be afraid of failure or not being good enough. We may worry that we will lose our relationships or our sense of identity. Or we may simply be uncomfortable with change and the uncertainty it brings.
Whatever the reason, it is important to remember that change is a natural part of life. Nothing stays the same forever – everything evolves and changes over time. The key is to embrace change, rather than resist it.
Accept the fear
The first step in overcoming the fear of starting over is to accept that you are feeling this way. Acknowledge your fears and be honest with yourself. This is an important step, because it allows you to begin working on them.
Get rid of negative self-talk
One of the main reasons we resist change is because of our negative thoughts and self-talk. We may tell ourselves that we are not good enough or that we will never achieve our goals. This type of thinking can be very damaging and lead to feelings of discouragement and despair.
If you find yourself engaging in negative self-talk, stop! Replace those thoughts with positive ones instead. Remind yourself that you CAN do this, that you ARE capable and worthy.
Have hopes for the best and plans for the worst case scenario
We often worry about the future and what could go wrong. We may imagine all sorts of terrible things happening – from losing our job to ending up alone and homeless.
While it is important to be prepared for the worst case scenario, it is also important to have hope for the best. Remember that not everything will go wrong – in fact, most likely nothing will! But by planning for the worst, you will be better equipped to handle any situation that comes your way.
Focus on what you can control
We often feel like we are out of control. We may feel like the future is a mystery and that we can’t do anything to influence it.
But this isn’t true! We always have some degree of control over our lives, even when things seem uncertain. The key is to focus on what we CAN control, rather than what we can’t. This may include our thoughts, feelings and actions.
Set achievable goals — then ignore your inner perfectionist
It can be tempting to set lofty goals that seem out of reach. This may be because these goals are not realistic for us or because they don’t align with our values and priorities in life. The problem with setting unrealistic goals is that they often lead to feelings of failure when we can’t achieve them.
Instead, set achievable goals that reflect your values and priorities. Then ignore your inner perfectionist! You don’t have to do everything perfectly – try focusing on progress instead of perfectionism.
Start small and celebrate your wins
Sometimes we may try big changes all at once. But this usually doesn’t work very well because we end up feeling overwhelmed and discouraged. We may even give up before making any progress!
Instead, start small by taking one step at a time. Celebrate each victory along the way – no matter how small or insignificant they seem! This will help keep you motivated as you move forward with your life goals.
Practice repetition and keep going
When we are afraid of change, we often try to avoid it by repeating the same patterns over again. This can leave us feeling stuck in a rut and unable to move forward with our lives. But you don’t have to stay in that pattern forever! The key is repetition – just keep doing what works until it becomes automatic.
Eventually, those actions will become second nature so they won’t seem like such hard work anymore! And when they do, you’ll be ready for anything life throws at you… no matter how scary or overwhelming it seems right now.
Reward yourself for a job well done
It can be tempting to procrastinate and put off taking any action. After all, why bother doing anything if you’re just going to fail anyway? But by rewarding yourself for your hard work (and not punishing yourself when things go wrong), you’ll find that the process becomes much easier over time. In fact, you might even start enjoying it!
So don’t wait until tomorrow – take one step today towards making that big scary change in your life! And remember: no matter how hard it may seem right now… YOU CAN DO IT!!
Surround yourself with supporters
When we are afraid of change, it can be tempting to isolate ourselves from others. We may feel like no one understands what we’re going through – or even worse, that they don’t care about us at all!
But isolation isn’t healthy or helpful. It’s important for our mental health to have supportive friends and family who will listen without judging us when things go wrong (as they often do). Surround yourself with people you trust so they can help lift your spirits during difficult times.
Remember: there is nothing wrong with asking for help! So ask away!
Change can be scary, but it’s also necessary for growth. Don’t be afraid to start over – you will be better equipped to handle any situation that comes your way. Focus on what you can control, set achievable goals, start small and celebrate your wins. Practice repetition and keep going until it becomes automatic. Reward yourself for a job well done! Surround yourself with supporters who will help lift your spirits during difficult times.
And most importantly… DON’T GIVE UP! Change is hard, but it’s worth it in the end.