Do you ever get the feeling that someone just isn’t interested in you? Maybe they’re not returning your texts or emails, or maybe they just seem really distant when you talk to them. If you’re wondering how to tell if someone doesn’t like you, look for the following signs.
We’ll help you decode human behavior and body language are telling you, so that you can either fix the relationship or move on!
You’ve got a bad vibe
Sometimes, you just know when someone isn’t interested in you. If your instincts tell you that something’s off, listen to them! You can pick up on a person’s true feelings about you through their negative or positive body language or tone of voice.
If someone is avoiding too much eye contact with you, it could be because they’re not interested in what you have to say. Look for other bad signs of disinterest as well: if they’re sitting with a closed posture (crossed arms and legs pointed away from the conversation) while they talk to you, it means that they are probably feel uncomfortable or bored by what’s going on around them right now and would rather be somewhere else!
They consistently disappoint you
If someone is always letting you down, chances are they’re just not that into you. If they can’t be bothered to make an effort with you, it’s probably because they don’t care about your relationship.
Pay attention to how often this person cancels on plans or flakes on dates. Do they return your calls and texts in a timely manner? If the answer is no, then there’s a good chance that this person is blowing you off.
They only reach out when they need something
Is there a one-sided quality to your relationship? If the only time this person ever talks to you is when they need something from you (like help with a project or money), then it’s probably because they don’t really care about you.
Most people who are interested in getting to know you will make an effort to talk to you even when they don’t need anything from you. They’ll be super excited to hear what’s going on in your life and share their own news with you.
They don’t want to touch you
If someone is always keeping their distance from you, it might mean that they’re not interested in getting close to you. People who are attracted to each other will often touch each other casually (a hand on the arm, a pat on the back) as a way of showing physical affection.
If this person avoid physical contact, it could be because they’re not feeling any chemistry between you two. This doesn’t necessarily mean that the relationship is doomed, but it’s definitely worth considering if you want something more out of the connection.
The smile they give out is not genuine
Another way to tell if someone doesn’t like you is to watch their fake smile. When a person is interested in getting to know more about another human being and feeling an attraction towards them as well, it will show through their facial expressions – especially when they smile!
The kind of real smiles that show genuine interest are called Duchenne smiles: these types of grins involve both sides of the mouth lifting up equally but also raise cheeks so that dimples appear on either side near the corners where lips meet skin above each eye socket (as opposed to one-sided or “fake” grins which only lift half).
Your conversations never go deeper than the surface
Do you feel like you can never really get to know this person? If your conversations always stay on the surface level, it’s because they’re not interested in getting to know you better.
Are they willing to share their thoughts, feelings and opinions with you? If not, then it’s because they don’t see you as a long-term prospect.
You might think that this person doesn’t like talking about serious topics or deep emotions – which could be true! But if someone is interested in getting closer to another human being and feeling an attraction towards them as well, it will show through their words too (even when discussing something more lighthearted).
People who are attracted to each other have no problem sharing what makes up their lives; whether its details about work/family life or just general interests such as reading books on weekends or playing video games all night long … the point is: there should be some sort of connection.
They always make plans with other people, but not you
Do you feel like this person is always busy? If they’re constantly making future plans with other people but never spending time with you, it’s probably because they don’t see you as a priority.
People who are into you will want to make free time for you – even if their calendar is packed! If this person keeps blowing you off, it’s probably because they’d rather spend time doing something else.
They don’t initiate a conversation with you
Have you ever noticed that this person never starts a conversation with you? If they’re always waiting for someone else to get the ball rolling, it might mean that they’re losing interest in getting to know more about who you are and what makes up your life.
People who like each other will naturally want to talk; if there isn’t much communication between two people then one of them doesn’t see their relationship as something worth investing time into – or at least, not yet. They think everything is all fun and games until it’s not anymore!
They keep you out with negative body language
Do you feel like this person is constantly pushing you away? If they’re always making themselves seem unapproachable, it’s because they don’t want you to get close to them.
People who are attracted to each other will often open up their body language and make themselves available for a conversation. This could mean that they’ll cross their arms or legs in a way that looks closed off, or averting their gaze from yours.
They don’t appear to be listening to you
Do you feel like this person is always tuning out when you talk? If they’re not making eye contact, appearing distracted or simply not responding, it’s because they don’t care about what you have to say.
People who are interested in each other will be engaged during conversations – they’ll make eye contact, nod their head and even ask thoughtful questions! If the person you’re talking to seems uninterested or giving you one word answers, it’s probably because they couldn’t careless about getting to know more about you.
Do they remember small details about you?
People who are attracted to each other will often remember small details about the person they’re interested in. This could be something as simple as your favorite color or where you grew up.
If this person can’t seem to remember anything about you, it’s probably because they don’t see you as someone worth remembering. Attention to detail is a key sign that someone cares about another person – if this trait is missing, it’s a pretty good indication that there isn’t much of a connection between the two of you.
Is their reaction consistent with yours?
If you’re feeling a certain way, chances are that this person isn’t either. People who like each other will often feed off of one another’s emotions – if they’re happy then so are you! If they’re sad or angry though, it’ll rub off on them too. So pay attention to how this person reacts when something happens in your life.
Are they excited and supportive? Or do they seem distant and uninterested? If their reaction doesn’t match yours then there might not be much of a connection.
Does their actions match what they say?
One of the biggest giveaways that someone isn’t into you is when their words and actions don’t match.
If this person tells you that they like to spend time with you, but then never makes an effort to actually see you – it’s a clear sign that they’re not being truthful! The same thing goes for if they tell you how much they care about you, but continue to hurt or ignore your feelings.
Pay attention to what this person does (or doesn’t do), because their body language and words will often give away the truth. If something seems off, trust your gut instinct and confront them about it!
In my opinion, the best way to tell if someone doesn’t like you is by paying attention to their nonverbal cues. Action speak louder than words. If they’re not making eye contact or smiling when talking with you then there’s a good chance that this person isn’t interested in getting closer!
It’s important for us all as human beings who want healthy relationships (and a healthy self-esteem!) to be able to identify when others aren’t interested because we need time and energy better spent elsewhere – on people who do care about what happens next between them. So pay attention: are they listening? Do they smile at your jokes? Is every conversation one sided? These things can give us clues into whether our attempts for a romantic relationship will go anywhere worth going.